S*x is great and all, but when it comes to women, men want more
from than to just fulfill their primal instinct — whether they know it
or not.
Some guys subconsciously want a mother
figure (Oedipus complex, yikes!), while others willingly admit that they
thrive off of dating the crazy, somewhat unstable, girls out there.
The good news is that there are plenty of fish in the sea — someone for everyone, or so they say.
Nonetheless, guys still problematically reduce the opposite gender to a simple, black-and-white purpose — s*x
It’s not the end all and be all, bros. The sooner you realize that, the easier life will be.
Here’s what guys are looking for in girls other than the old in-and-out:
1. Communication
A
guy talking to another guy in a social setting is so entirely different
then a guy and a girl talking in a social or intimate setting. The dick
and fart jokes — or political chatter if that’s your shtick — and the
endless Game of Thrones banter is replaced with raw honesty about
aspirations, preferences, and, yes, feelings.
Hey,
I’m not trying to saying we’re all softies here, but every guy should
own up to the fact that he enjoys a conversing with women. They enable
us to talk about the “stuff” we simply do not talk about in a bro-only
setting.
Not to be overlooked: deep down guys love
to be challenged by a strong woman who can express herself well and
openly state her opinions, as well as her feelings. Sure arguments with
the guys are always a riot, but an argument with a female can be equally
rewarding as long as it doesn’t turn into a fight.
2. Laughter
Although
enjoyable, getting a guy to laugh at a joke has its limitations within
the male ego; meanwhile, when a chick laughs at something you say, you
end up feeling like a $1,000 bucks for the rest of the day. And for the
most part, you don’t know why.
And if you think I know the answer, then you’re sorely mistaken — this isn’t psychology class.
Similar
to No. 1, it’s overlooked too often, guys like girls who are funny and
playful. Having someone to laugh at your jokes is the best, but it’s
also nice to be with some who cracks you up and doesn’t have a penis.
3. Organization
To
some women out there this will seem demeaning, but that couldn’t be
further from the truth. Bros are unorganized slobs who simply need help
getting their respective shit together. It’s not a bad thing that
females are better at managing clothes and organizing rooms. In fact, I
for one am kind of jealous of their ability to keep things tidy and make
it look so easy.
And yes, I’m aware there are plenty of girl slobs out there. These women are not wife material, just saying.
4. Belief
Confidence
dictates the rules of the road with pretty much everything associated
in pursuing females, so it’s no surprise to see belief (also known as
support) on this list. Guys want girls who believe in them and who see
their potential. While sex is important, it’s pretty obvious that men
want women because they give us some sort of X-factor in the confidence
department that we would otherwise be without.
Yes, ladies, without your belief in us we’d be half the men we are today. There, I said it.
However, men also do seek a…
5. Care-giver
Again,
I’m not trying to belittle females, but guys are looking for a good
nurse in their woman. Any girls who can apply a bandage or reduce a
fever is going to win thousands of subconscious points with a guy that a
sexual freak will simply never be able to score.
Yea,
it’s cool that the chick you brought home last night could put her legs
behind her head, but that flexibility means absolutely nothing if she
doesn’t know how to help you when you’re puking your guts out the next
morning or, worse, when you’re suffering from a mean case of diarrhea.
See, s*x isn’t everything.
6. Independence
This
should be higher because the s*x could be dynamite — the best you’ve
ever had, but the reality is you won’t be sticking around for long if
she’s a stage-five clinger. In fact, every positive attribute — looks,
intelligence, support — can be ruined instantly if she’s always nagging
you with texts/calls or even worse: uninvited visits to your apartment.
Men require freedom (golf, poker, etc.) and they actually want the same
out of their women. Constantly being around each other is how
relationships sailor dive to an abrupt and unfriendly halt. Everyone
needs space, guys and girls.
7. Tolerance
Man is this important! Raise your hand if you’ve ever acted like a drunken buffoon before. Everyone’s hands raised? OK, good.
Bros
want a girl who can tolerate this sort of behavior and not judge them
based on one or two (or twelve) nights of complete and utter mayhem. A
guy wants someone who will stand by him through thick and thin, and that
— again — is a lot more than just having sex with someone. It requires
patience, understand, and…you get the picture.
8. Honesty
This
goes hand and hand with tolerance, as well as other items on this list.
Although painful most of the time, guys do need the honesty a girl
gives them. How else would we change and become better people?
A
man needs a helping hand every once and a while — OK fine, everyday —
when he acts like a headless Neanderthal, and a woman gives him that
balanced assessment that he wouldn’t be able to make with his own
partial judgments.
Speaking of hands…
9. An old fashioned
What?
This doesn’t count as sex, but it’s an important part of the
male-female relationship. Sure, bros can take care of their own needs,
and some prefer to do it manually, but there are some instances in life
when a good, old-fashioned jerk is the best cure in the entire world.
(Side note: this would make for a great column idea. Everyone available next week?)
10. Sensuality
Looking
good is too obvious to have on this list, and I wanted to stay away
from looks in general, but sensuality is different because it’s all
about how a girl carries herself. If chicks are attracted to confidence,
then guess what? Guys are too.
A girl with an air
of sexiness and confidence can trump a better looking broad any day of
the week, and guys don’t even realize it. All it takes is a woman who is
comfortable with her own sexuality. Sometimes hot chicks are very
insecure, and are therefore not as sexy as their physical looks
Nigeria is at a cross road and that is the explanation for this madness
going on. While international community and countries like the USA,
France, China, the UK are strategizing on how to rescue the over two
hundreds girls kidnapped from their School in Chibok, Borno State, a
Nigerian senator representing Borno North, Senator Ahmed Zanna, has said
he wont tell anyone where the abducted girls are being kept.
WATCH OUT FOR THE GROUND BREAKING OF ANOTHER ICON SUCCEEDING GOV. FASHOLA. A MAN OF GREAT RECORD AND ACHIEVEMENT, A MAN WHO CARES FOR BOTH THE YOUNG AND OLD, with a burning passion for the youths. This post is not politically oriented, but remember we are all craving for a change, AND THE TIME IS NOW! 
One of the odd things about the Internet is that so many people don’t
quite seem to understand that it’s real. Sure, they realize that there’s
a computer in front of them, a “series of tubes,” and then…it gets kind
of foggy. It’s like they think there are magical pixies from the land
of Lulz on the other end, as opposed to their family, friends,
co-workers, and old boyfriends who are obsessively poring over their
Facebook page.
Three weeks after their horrifying abduction in Nigeria, 276 of the more than 300 girls who were taken from a school by armed militants are still missing, possibly sold into slavery or married off. Nigerian security forces apparently do not know where the girls are and the country’s president, Goodluck Jonathan, has been shockingly slow and inept at addressing this monstrous crime.
